Your Life Will Change When You Get Really Good at Starting Over

Sometimes that’s the only skill you need

Allison Burney


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Sometimes the best-laid plans are just that: plans.

Life doesn’t always go along with what you want. It has its own plan, and sometimes it’s so far off your carefully crafted timeline that it catches you completely off guard and sends shock waves rippling through you.

You suddenly find yourself in very unfamiliar territory, struggling to stay afloat and wrap your head around a new reality that you never could have imagined.

There you were, merrily trucking along down the path you thought was your future, when suddenly, the path abruptly ends without any warning. Now, instead of enjoying your nice forest walk, you’re freefalling off a steep cliff.

If I’ve learned anything this year, it’s that life has a way of reminding us of who’s really in charge here. And it’s not us.

No matter how comfortable you get, how much you trust someone, or how carefully you plan out your life and attempt to execute those plans, there’s always the potential of a hurricane coming through and leaving your life in ruins.

I’m aware that this sounds completely depressing. But it’s not meant to be.

You see, there’s a valuable lesson to be gleaned from the wreckage.

Even when it seems like all is lost, there is still hope. You can start over, no matter how hard it is.

It’s what I’ve had to do recently, and although it hasn’t been easy, I’ve found that it is possible.

On July 7, I started writing an article a day and either self-publishing it or submitting it to a publication.

I made it to almost day 60 — which was a huge accomplishment for me — when my world got turned upside down.

My heart was so broken that I found myself unable to write. It was like the faucet had been turned off and welded shut. There was nothing flowing from the well anymore.

Rather than words flowing onto the page, tears began flowing from my eyes.

Some days all I felt I could do was sit and breathe, or go for a walk on the rural roads around my parents’…



Allison Burney

Writer, ghostwriter & proofreader. On a mission to keep exploring, learning & enjoying this adventure we call life. Work with me: