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Stop Putting Timelines on Your Life. It’s Destroying Your Joy.
And probably your potential
I have a problem with patience.
It’s okay if you do too.
The truth is, I think most of us do. It’s a bit of an epidemic these days.
We want it all, and we want it to happen right now. Not in two years, not in five years, and definitely not in 20 years. No, we want everything we’ve ever wanted — right now!
The almighty number 30
I can remember feeling this way a lot in my 20s.
I had this perceived deadline of 30 ingrained in my head. I had to “be successful” by 30, which included having the perfect relationship, starting a family, having the dream career, and being financially successful and stable. In short, I wanted to be “set” — or maybe settled — by 30.
I thought that was the way to happiness. I thought achieving all of that would make people proud, that that was what I was supposed to do.
I’ve always put a lot of pressure on myself to achieve — and not just to achieve, but to do so by a certain age — as if after that, my shot is over, and I won’t have any more chances.
In reality, I’m turning 32 soon, and almost all of those things I thought I…
